Gay public fun

Brian Gerald Murphy

These days lots of gay guys are using Grindr for hooking up. But we didn&#;t always contain sex available at our fingertips. For centuries (or longer!) gay and bi guys have create ways to connect with each other, even when doing so was illegal. Most of us don&#;t come from queer families and so we don&#;t grasp our LGBTQ history at house. So, I set out to uncover the ways that gay and bisexual guys have met each other for friendship and sex. Here&#;s a brief history of gay cruising

These days lots of gay guys are using Grindr for hooking up. But we didn&#;t always own sex available at our fingertips. From bathhouses to bars, sex parties to saunas, even to parks and bathrooms. Gay guys have found a way to find each other, even before Grindr.

For the past 11 years, up until this past January, I lived in Fresh York City. It&#;s one of the centers of gay life in the United States. It&#;s a port city and after the sailors

Ahoy, land lovers! Just kidding &#; we’re not talking that caring of cruising…more ‘park lovers’ if you catch our drift.

Yep, we’re talking all things gay cruising – what it is, where it’s from and how to get involved (if that’s your thing, of course). We’re talking gay cruising because let’s be honest, who doesn’t love a bit of out-there sex chat, right?

Now before you make any snap assumptions, or instantly grant any prejudice get the greater of you, just remember that it’s and kink shaming is low-key gronk &#; everyone’s got their thing. If you’re all adults and you’re all consenting, then get your rocks off any which way you verb – honestly, you do you, darl. We’ll support it.

Gay cruising, for those not in the know (…or pretending to not be), is the act of looking for sexual partners at a ‘beat’ (think discreet parks, unofficial nude beaches and even the odd public toilet). The term ‘cruising’ originally emerged as a code word in the closeted gay community, so those “in the know” could speak the topic openly without the fear of facing homophobic injure. Since then the t

Steamroomography

STRANGER! if you, passing, meet me, and desire to speak to me, why should you not speak to me?
And why should I not speak to you?

~ Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

When you draw open the frosted glass door and step into the vaporous underworld, you have no more than ten seconds to find a seat. Even ten seconds, come to think of it, might offer you away – not offend so much as divulge to fellow steamers your inexperience or, more troublingly, your imprudence. The trick is to score the best possible spot using those maneuvers that you, like most gay men, procured in your teens and mastered in your twenties: flicking and flickering sidelong glances that piece together the periphery like a snake’s dancing tongue.

You try to surmise the following: how many men are lounging? Is there one obviously captivating contender? One entirely without pulchritude? One your father’s age? Your grandfather’s? While selecting a slot on the tessellated stone bench is your first arrange of business, there is, in those ephemeral instances, another impression to cull from the room. It

Secret Signals: How Some Men Cruise for Sex

Aug. 28, &#; -- While many Americans may only be vaguely familiar with the idea of "cruising," there is a secret world of sex between men that exists in public places across the country.

The police officer who arrested Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, in a men's restroom at the Minneapolis airport for allegedly looking to engage in gay sex wrote in his June report that he "recognized a signal used by persons wishing to engage in lewd conduct."

Craig tapped his foot up and down and swiped his hand underneath the bathroom stall in which the undercover cop was sitting, according to the police report.

Those actions led to Craig's arrest by Detective Dave Karsnia and the senator's guilty plea to a disorderly conduct charge. Craig told reporters today that he did nothing inappropriate and said his guilty plea was a mistake.

Public places like men's restrooms, in airports and train stations, truck stops, university libraries and parks, have long been places where gay and bisexual men, particularly th