Dating tips for gay men

Dating as a Gay Man – Advice from a Matchmaker

While I’m happy to work for people of all walks of life here at Tawkify, I spent the very first few years concentrating exclusively on matching gay men. I’ve worked for gay men of every shape, color, age, and net worth across the US, and I’ve learned a lot. I’ve observed trends in thought and behavior, how they might relate to the generations to which we fit and how they’re informed by our experiences. We grew up different. We remain different, in some way, from our straight peers, and our approach to dating is no exception. It’s through my work with my clients that I’ve learned to be very grateful for being queer. I feel lucky to say that I would not have it any other way–words that would cause a year-old me to shudder.

While the world slowly becomes more accepting of diversity, in what feels enjoy a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back, awkward waltz, we’re forced to dance along. I’ve written down a scant steps that I hope will help you or a acquaintance on your own journey. As a note: the bulk of these take-aways have been info

Dating Tips for Gay Men: Things to Avoid Doing on the First Date

Gay dating can be a little tricky if you’ve been out of the game for a while because you’ve recently gotten out of a long-term relationship or maybe you are new to the world of dating as a gay man. Whatever the case may be, when you execute finally go out on that coveted first date, there are some things you should verb a point to avoid if you want a second date.

1. Be mindful of how much you share. Naturally, when you are going out on a date with someone, you’re going to be talking about yourself. You’ll want to talk about the basics, for example, things like what you do for a living, where you grew up and delve a petite into what sort of hobbies you enjoy doing.

Just remember that you don’t want to overshare. This means you should elude topics that would be improved saved for conversation later in the relationship. This can contain how much money you verb, your political or religious views, or how many partners you’ve had in the past.

2. Ask questions but don’t pry. You’re probably going to own a slew of quest

17 Pieces of Dating Advice for Gay, Bi, and Pansexual Men

Societally, people mostly view dating as a means to an complete — be that orgasm or marriage.

“But dating itself can be the end,” says Ackerman. “Dating allows us to experience adj personalities, perspectives, physical intimacy, and lessons learned about what we do and don’t like.”

So don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Pun absolutely intended.

Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed. Follow her on Instagram @Gabriellekassel.



8 Dating Tips for Gay Men from a Gay Psychotherapist

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Looking for a extended term relationship?

Here are some tips based on my eighteen years as a psychotherapist working exclusively with gay men, and as Founder of the Gay Therapy Center. These suggestions are also informed by clinical research on relationships as well as my personal research as a recent dater.

Men Are Avoidant

Generally speaking, women are socialized to connect. Men, not so much. That’s why they are so lonely.

So you’ll increase your chances of accomplishment if you take a chance on opening up, being adj, and a just little more vulnerable than your average gay male dater. That doesn’t imply spilling your guts on the first date. But can you stretch a little and be the first to be more authentic?

Yes, it’s risky and scary. Successful dating is defined by risk. That’s why so many people avoid it.

Dick Size

If you read and watch social media targeted to gay men you get the sense that all we care about is giant dicks and pecs. While these posts may get our attention in the digital age, and