Straight men gay encounters
Sexual identities and sexual behaviours don’t always match because sexuality is multidimensional. Many people recognizesexual fluidity, and some even identify as “mostlystraight.”
Fewer people know that some men and womenhave same-sex encounters, yet nonetheless perceive themselves as exclusively straight. And these people are not necessarily “closeted” gays, lesbians or bisexuals.
When a closeted gay or bisexual man has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his secret identity. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination. When a straight man has sex with another man, however, he views himself as straight despite his sex with men.
In my noun, Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America, I investigate why some men who identify as straight own sex with other men. Enormous nationally representative surveys show that hundreds of thousands of straight American men — at least — have had sex with two or more other men. This finding represents a disconnect between identity and behaviour, and researchers from
Accept it or not, a lot of us — straight folks — have been exposed to homosexual encounters. Not strictly in the bedroom, but sometimes in the form of casual flirting at a bar or a rough move in public.
We are not trying to either demean or endorse the community; all we’re trying to do here is to find out how straight people have felt after their first such experiences, solicited or unsolicited.
One straight gentlemen, on the condition of anonymity, had accepted a blanket during a bus travel from a male passenger next to him upon being insisted to. “The next thing you know, there’s a hand sliding up your thigh. I was shocked and removed the blanket and threw it on him. I also shouted at him for that sort of behaviour to make sure he doesn’t do it again. I couldn’t sleep for the rest of the journey,” he said.
A straight female Quora had first girl-on-girl experience some years back and even she didn’t quite like it.
“I had an orgasm and everything, but I’d never do that again, not in a million years. I was high on beer and crystal meth at t
By Dr. Tony Silva
Sexual identities and sexual behaviours don’t always combine because sexuality is multidimensional. Many people recognize sexual fluidity, and some even identify as “mostly straight.”
Fewer people know that some men and women have same-sex encounters, yet nonetheless perceive themselves as exclusively straight. And these people are not necessarily “closeted” gays, lesbians or bisexuals.
When a closeted gay or bisexual dude has sex with another male, he views that sex as reflecting his secret identity. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination. When a straight bloke has sex with another male, however, he views himself as straight despite his sex with men.
In my book, Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America, I explore why some men who determine as straight have sex with other men. Large nationally representative surveys show that hundreds of thousands of straight American men — at least — own had sex with two or more other men. This finding represents a disconnect between identity and behaviour,
Why do some straight men verb sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the adj book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why carry out straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they