How to tell if your boyfriend is in the closet

If the thought has ever crossed your mind, “I think my boyfriend is gay”… this announce is for you.

This is a subject that I have wanted to write about for a very long time. Why? Because I once dated a guy who was everything I had ever wanted, until… I set up something that forever changed the foundation that our relationship was built on.

I was once that girl, who didn’t know what to do or where to change. A girl that found herself in the middle of the night Googling, “Is he gay? Is my boyfriend gay? I think my boyfriend is gay” while *he* was sound asleep next to me – as seemingly NOT gay as ever. I had never had a connection with anyone like this before. It couldn’t be. But then again, why did I find what I found on his phone?

Not only did I not find anything from my Google searches, but I actually create a ton of junk out there that personally, I reflect is very disrespectful to the gay community. “If he hangs out with guys,” “If he spends longer doing his hair than you do,” “If he dances

35 Signs Your Husband is in the Closet (+ Video & Quiz)

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34 Signs Your Husband is the Closet and Maybe Gay

These are the probable signs your husband is in the closet:

  1. He tells you that he is gay.
  2. He is sexually not into you.
  3. He is emotionally detached.
  4. He is emotionally inconsistent.
  5. He justifies the lack of sex.
  6. He uses performance enhancers.
  7. He has unusual sexual preferences.
  8. He is not jealous.
  9. He often says he is trapped.
  10. He befriends a lot of new males.
  11. He loves spending time with one special male friend.
  12. He travels a lot, and his absence is unexplained.
  13. His behaviour is secretive.
  14. He has gay friends.
  15. He has a gay past.
  16. He is bisexual.
  17. He is attracted to the same sex.
  18. He goes to gay clubs.
  19. He checks out and gazes at other men.
  20. He flirts with other men.
  21. He is obsessed with gays.
  22. He is overly affectionate with other men.
  23. He spends a lot of time at the gym.
  24. He is full of unexplained vanity.
  25. He is effeminate and loves to cross-dress.
  26. He watches and enjoys gay porn.
  27. He uses gay dating apps.
  28. He is on gay dating sites.
  29. He doesn’t l

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