Gay im a married man
Ask Tina: I'm a gay guy and have been dating a married man for over a year now
I'm gay guy and have been seeing a married man for just over a year now. He spoils me, he buys me stuff but goes back to his wife and grown up kids and I won't hear from him for weeks and then he comes back to me and we both have great adj together. Someone will get offend and I know it will be me.
He tells me he loves me but I really know he is only using me for a bit on the side.
What do you think I should do because I really like him but it's only sex, we never socialise at all and I get sad when I don't see him or hear from him for weeks. A couple of times I have cancelled plans with friends at the last minute just to be with him.
I have to verb till he contacts me but I am a selfish person and want more out of this relationship even though I know he's married. He can't be happy if he's with me, can he? Thank you so much.
Really you have answered your own question and by the way, you are not the selfish one in this relationship.
You say he's a married man, that he spoils you and buys y No one can quite plan you for the experience of dating within the queer community. It’s something you need to navigate on your own. As you spend time online and out in the real world, you learn how to sift through guys who end up meeting your specific requirements. It has become rhythmic almost for a lot of us gay men to act like sorting hats and put men in categories we’d love to use accordingly. There’s The Fuckbuddy, who is waiting for you to call or text and has a turn-around time of one hour or less. Then there’s The Traveller, who is into you but never in town when you are free. There’s also The Stringer, who you have nicely wrapped around your finger and you retain stringing along, with no intention of taking it anywhere. And then there’s The One You Really Want, a man who is perfectly in sync with you, is handsome and financially sorted. Ah wait, he’s also married. Many gay men I know, including myself, have gotten their hearts broken at the hands of men married to women, with many swearing off this category altogether after having their hopes dashed over and ov Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He set his bags down, gently put his Blackberry on the table in front of him, and heaved himself onto the couch. He sighed and began: &#;Okay, I&#;m gay, I&#;m married, I have three kids, and I&#;m not getting divorced.&#; He&#;d shared some of this information with me in our phone conversation, but I was still struck by the sense of hopelessness in his tone. As he paused, awaiting my response, quite honestly, I was awaiting my response as adequately. I knew this was not Rob&#;s first experience in therapy and that a lot was riding on what I was about to say. Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he&#;d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he&#;d begun attending AA meetings, where he&#;d shared parts of his story. He described a long struggle with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction DO NOT, ever imply I am ignorant or without experience again, I mean this well!
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First: I am a volunteer in Clinic as a Legal Aid, and we defenitly see this, but it is not in the Majority of what is seen. That is the Truth weither you accept it or not.
The identy crisis is there if you are trully gay, but it is not the majority that we see. And not the comming social norm. Most of those Guys spoken about, either keep it inside and suffer greatly, or arrive out and get into all types of Psychological trama, from kids to Sppouses, and family, yesbut not that many. Some commit suicide over it, some flip out.
I understand full the family trama involved and the implications for the Man. I have assisted in many battles representing Guys like that to assist them as I can. And have also assisted spouses. The Councelors have really excelent help mechanisms if they would come out and ask, They either stay hidden or it is not that many.
I hold faught for to many now, to take this kind of an implied statement, you are not the on