Bi people meet
People are all too quick to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to admit it. Dating a non-binary person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I know, because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two gay German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as queer as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can understand our sexuality a petite better.
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London Bisexuals
We are a safe, friendly, social environment for bisexual, biromantic, pansexual/romantic, polysexual, queer, fluid or other non-monosexual people (aka. m-spec, bi+). Bi-curious / questioning people and supportive partners, friends, allies also welcome: but please study & understand (at least) the basics - don't ask the same biphobic questions we earn outside this safer space or make equivalent assumptions of anyone here.
Come make bi+ friends, hook out, chat, have fun; notice, learn and take part in some bi / LGBT+ culture, history, and activism; and experience part of a community in a (usually) free-to-attend, casual informal environment.
🟣 What do we do?
* Events
Most are social informal chatty hangouts on weekday evenings. We've always had monthly pub drinks evening in Soho on the same fourth Thursday (18+ age limit). Online events replace in-person when necessary (via Zoom/our Discord) without the age limit; the link is set as the location (sometimes in the event description).
Turnout is strong - reliably 40 or more for the in-person monthly bar socials pr
By Zachary Zane
When I finally embraced my bisexuality five long years after kissing my first gentleman, I was elated, convinced that the world would now be my oyster. I thought being bisexual would double my chances of a date on any given Friday night. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Women didn’t want to date me, fearing that I was using the bi label as a stepping stone to being “full-blown” gay. Whether or not they’d openly admit it, many feared I’d inevitably leave them for a man. The gay men I dated didn’t hold this fallacious belief. Rather, they were unbelievably condescending. They’d say things favor, “Oh, honey! I was bi too. You’ll get there.” When I reaffirmed my bisexuality, letting them know that this isn’t a pitstop, but a ultimate destination, they’d respond, “I verb you think that. I did too.”
So I stopped telling people I was bisexual, at least on the first date. It wasn’t that I was ashamed of being attracted to all genders or attempting to mask my bisexuality. I hoped that if they got to recognize and trust me, they would believe I was bisexual. I also figured i
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Bisexual dating and LGBTQIA+ Connections
Discover the world’s largest community of bisexual and queer folks. No more bi-erasure and biphobia. We possess millions of sapphicsin our community and over 30% of our user base are bi-babes. HER is even founded by a bi woman &#; we’re here to make this sapphic experience the best we possibly can for you.
We’ve taken a sturdy stance against unicorn hunters on HER (no shame! We just feel that other apps cater well for that purpose, and our community mainly asked not to be scouted out for those goals) so you can focus on the more meaningful, intentional connections you’re looking for.
Connect on your terms
15M+ members and growing
With no shortage of people, your perfect match awaits.
stars on the App Store
Apple Editor’s Choice , , , ,
Empowering communities
Join one of our vibrant 35+ LGBTQIA+ community groups
Chat with bisexuals near you
Unite and chat with like-minded friends and lovers in your area
On HER, you say goodbye to stereo
London Bisexuals
We are a safe, friendly, social environment for bisexual, biromantic, pansexual/romantic, polysexual, queer, fluid or other non-monosexual people (aka. m-spec, bi+). Bi-curious / questioning people and supportive partners, friends, allies also welcome: but please study & understand (at least) the basics - don't ask the same biphobic questions we earn outside this safer space or make equivalent assumptions of anyone here.
Come make bi+ friends, hook out, chat, have fun; notice, learn and take part in some bi / LGBT+ culture, history, and activism; and experience part of a community in a (usually) free-to-attend, casual informal environment.
🟣 What do we do?
* Events
Most are social informal chatty hangouts on weekday evenings. We've always had monthly pub drinks evening in Soho on the same fourth Thursday (18+ age limit). Online events replace in-person when necessary (via Zoom/our Discord) without the age limit; the link is set as the location (sometimes in the event description).
Turnout is strong - reliably 40 or more for the in-person monthly bar socials pr
By Zachary Zane
When I finally embraced my bisexuality five long years after kissing my first gentleman, I was elated, convinced that the world would now be my oyster. I thought being bisexual would double my chances of a date on any given Friday night. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Women didn’t want to date me, fearing that I was using the bi label as a stepping stone to being “full-blown” gay. Whether or not they’d openly admit it, many feared I’d inevitably leave them for a man. The gay men I dated didn’t hold this fallacious belief. Rather, they were unbelievably condescending. They’d say things favor, “Oh, honey! I was bi too. You’ll get there.” When I reaffirmed my bisexuality, letting them know that this isn’t a pitstop, but a ultimate destination, they’d respond, “I verb you think that. I did too.”
So I stopped telling people I was bisexual, at least on the first date. It wasn’t that I was ashamed of being attracted to all genders or attempting to mask my bisexuality. I hoped that if they got to recognize and trust me, they would believe I was bisexual. I also figured i
The largest
bisexual
dating app
Download HER
Bisexual dating and LGBTQIA+ Connections
Discover the world’s largest community of bisexual and queer folks. No more bi-erasure and biphobia. We possess millions of sapphicsin our community and over 30% of our user base are bi-babes. HER is even founded by a bi woman &#; we’re here to make this sapphic experience the best we possibly can for you.
We’ve taken a sturdy stance against unicorn hunters on HER (no shame! We just feel that other apps cater well for that purpose, and our community mainly asked not to be scouted out for those goals) so you can focus on the more meaningful, intentional connections you’re looking for.
Connect on your terms
15M+ members and growing
With no shortage of people, your perfect match awaits.
stars on the App Store
Apple Editor’s Choice , , , ,
Empowering communities
Join one of our vibrant 35+ LGBTQIA+ community groups
Chat with bisexuals near you
Unite and chat with like-minded friends and lovers in your area